Don’t Isolate—Engage!

We have all dealt with people who just want to do things their own way, expressing their opinions unfiltered by any increased understanding. At it is written,

“Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire;
    he breaks out against all sound judgment.
A fool takes no pleasure in understanding,
    but only in expressing his opinion.” (Prov. 18:1-2)

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But the challenge for us, is to not become this person, by neither allowing our understanding to ossify though overindulging in our opinion nor becoming brittle through our stubbornness. Isolation is insidious. It can arise when we feel rejected by others in some way but also when we feel superior to or independent of, others.

There is an example of this kind of foolish behavior among the parables of Jesus,

And [Jesus] told them a parable, saying, “The land of a rich man produced plentifully, and he thought to himself, ‘What shall I do, for I have nowhere to store my crops?’ And he said, ‘I will do this: I will tear down my barns and build larger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I will say to my soul, “Soul, you have ample goods laid up for many years; relax, eat, drink, be merry.”’ (Luke 12:16-19)

Kenneth E. Bailey, in Jesus Through Middle-eastern Eyes, points out that in the culture of 1^st Century Palestine, it would have been unthinkably foolish to make important decisions without wise counsel. Some decisions are too important to be made alone. The Rich Fool doesn’t consult anyone…he is satisfied with his own internal dialogue instead of consulting the advice of others, or more importantly seeking to ask God what he should do. This is the trifecta of foolishness:

1. thinking he needed no other human counsel or input; 
2. completely failing to involve the Lord in his decision-making process; 
3. assuming that all he had been blessed with was for his own use—to enjoy at his leisure.  

We do well to remember that God is the ultimate source of any true blessing we enjoy, yet even so it is not intended as a terminal blessing—one that ends with us—but one that can only truly be received and enjoyed when it is shared with others. The Abrahamic blessing was no different. The blessing given to one man would ultimately be extended into a blessing for all the families on earth (Gen. 12:1-3). This should prompt us to consider how what we have received participates in the shared goodness of God. Secondly, we cannot participate in the wonderfully redemptive plan of God if we isolate our individual selves from others or insulate our local congregations from engaging with other groups in our community.

One thing is certain, when we engage with others, we can’t just express our opinion without listening to other viewpoints and potentially corrective reasoning, not to mention caring relationships, that might restrain us from doing stupid and hurtful things.

Unfortunately, too many consider social media outbursts to be engagement. While significant conversation can be facilitated across great distances by various digital platforms (I currently use Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn in addition to blogging) we may be shielded by our digital avatars and emboldened, or “disinhibited”, to attack or bully others and thus “breaking out against all sound judgment.”

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Are we followers of Jesus Christ? We should remember that while he consistently confronted the sin of the religious leaders (usually in person), of him, it could also be said,

“He will not quarrel or cry aloud,
    nor will anyone hear his voice in the streets;
a bruised reed he will not break,
    and a smoldering wick he will not quench,
until he brings justice to victory;
     and in his name the Gentiles will hope.” 

(Matthew 12:19-21, citing Isaiah 42:2-4)

If we represent him, then our approach should not be one of obnoxious tirades and trolling launched from an insulating distance where our ego can easily dismiss opposing voices as “ignorant idiots.” We would do well to draw nearer to others than ever before—to hear their stories, to celebrate their triumphs, and sit with them in their pain and brokenness. Such relational engagement has mutual benefits (See my pastoral post on "Talking to Strangers"). Others might experience healing and deliverance through our participation in relational gospel ministry, but we will be changed as well! We benefit from having our paradigms challenged, our pet perspectives turned upside down, our cardboard concepts enfleshed, by the Spirit working through the unexpected. Sometimes it is hard to face reality through relationships with less-than-perfect people, but the alternative is that I might never be set free from the prison of my own opinions. 

My application of this passage admonishes me, saying, 

• Don't isolate yourself to pamper your opinions. 
• Don't make major decisions independent of wise counsel. 
• Don't do stupid stuff because you don't have anyone you would allow to change your mind. 
• Do let the Scriptures, taken in context, be the filter on your affections, thoughts, and speech. 

Photo by Hans-Peter Gauster on Unsplash

So, what does this anti-isolation message mean for the way we prepare for roles as pastors, chaplains, missionaries, and other avenues of service? Are we passionate about ministering but self-trained or tend to form our beliefs in isolation? Maybe we earned a degree years ago and launched out on our own, but now wonder how best to minister to a post-everything culture?

If any of these are the case, I encourage you to become more Biblically orthodox while also becoming more of a bridge-building ambassador than ever before! Find cohort-based learning communities from well-respected seminaries that are designed for those currently serving in ministry roles and leverage the advantages of both classroom engagement and online flexibility. I am pretty certain that your ideas will be challenged, your faith will be strengthened, and your ministry refocused and readied in anticipation of new seasons of fruitfulness!